Personal stories from Maidstone Day Centre

Most of us cannot imagine that we could ever become homeless but sometime a series of events leads to that lonely place.

 

Homeless in Maidstone case studies

Becca
Becca

Becca had moved away from home in search of work but jobs were scarce and she found herself homeless. Eventually she moved into a hostel and got a job in catering but then her mother became ill.

"I moved back home to become my mother’s full time carer," she said, "but years later, after my father’s death, the house was sold in order to pay for my mother’s care-home fees and I found myself homeless again. I tried to find a flat, but with no job and with no work references, and even though I was able to pay rent, the answer was more often than not negative."

"Now homeless again, and with no parental home to go back to, I find myself in a very familiar position."

 


Thanks for your help, you will always be remembered. Ashley


 

Robin
Robin

"I had lived in Hastings for 15 years since meeting my girlfriend who had been a resident there for 23 years," explained 43 year old Robin. "The bottom dropped out of my world when she was diagnosed with cancer and sadly she died in hospital in March 2018. I was a sitting tenant in the 3 bedroom house we had shared, for a long time and I informed the Housing Officer that my girlfriend had died," The Housing Association advised Robin to move out of the house as otherwise he would have to pay bedroom tax; they assured him that they would help him to move into a flat. But there was no help and his 15 year relationship with his girlfriend counted for nothing when it came to establishing a local connection. Robin had to vacate the home they had shared with her son. "There were no rent arrears and no damage to the property but the child was not mine so there was no connection between me and the property and I was out on the street."

Robin moved back to Maidstone where he had family who helped him out for a while. "Then I started coming to Maidstone Day Centre and Tracy advised me to speak with Porchlight, the Council and to get a referral to the Food for Thought food bank, all the type of services I should have been offered in Hastings."

"Will Meyers, the Homeless Outreach Officer at Maidstone Borough Council very quickly found me temporary accommodation in the town and I am there now, taking the opportunity to get myself sorted out. Again I ask, why couldn’t this have been done in Hastings where I had lived all those years? I am still coming to the Day Centre for my meals and to get my laundry done. I would like to say a big Thank you to Tracy and to Will for all that you have done for me."

 


Thank you for your loving help support and interesting chats you have helped so many. Vicky


 

Bradley
Bradley

Four years ago Bradley was living in Bournemouth, working at House Clearance & removals. He lived with his girlfriend and life was what he then considered normal.

"My poison was alcohol: every night after work I would open a bottle of brandy or rum and drink until I was unconscious. The last thing I expected was to go to prison for an act of violence, but I did. I had attacked someone when I was drunk and received a sentence of 2 years. I was released after 12 months but reoffended and was recalled to prison for another 8 months."

After his release, Bradley made his way to Great Yarmouth to get away from the people and situations that he knew would encourage him to start drinking again. A month later though, when he was just getting his life in order, he received a phone call with the devasting news that his mother had died.

"That news was like a hammer blow and I desperately felt like a drink,” he remembered, "but I overcame the urge to drown my sorrows. I went to Bournemouth for my mother’s funeral and my brother was there so we were able to comfort each other."

A year or so later Bradley came across the victim of his attack and a few weeks after that he was badly beaten but his resolve did not waver. "I did not relapse or even consider drinking again," he said.” I left Bournemouth and came to Maidstone and was eventually housed by a service run by Maidstone Day Centre."

Bradley is a role model for all those men and women who are struggling to change.

"I have been sober for four years in June and I am proud of myself for my continued abstinence. I feel better in myself, physically, mentally & emotionally."

"Life is good."

 


Sincere thanks to everyone at the Day Centre for your kindness support and help. Dave